You can’t make me

(That’s true, I can’t require you to. I can, however, provide an opportunity for you to have several choices, both of which I can live with, to ensure that you are accountable to our agreements). This is a problem. Chores aren’t getting done. I can...

How much does a babysitter cost?

Earlier today I was asked this question. My response was that I usually find them on craigslist or through a friend. I came back to my son later today and asked why he was inquiring. His response: “NO, I don’t need a babysitter, I was just...

Team Shopping

A fun activity to do with your kids is share the responsibility at the grocery store. Each person picks three or four things they will retrieve, and everyone meets back at the front of the store for check out. When we share power with our kids, they rise to the...

How long will this take?

  I was talking with a parent recently who is struggling: she doesn’t get into arguments with her kids, however, they continue to push back and try to start arguments. When you decide to change the way you respond to your children, be prepared. There are no...
The last word

The last word

In our experiences with children we find that power is often a catalyst for change. The power I refer to can look many ways; how our kids choose to dress, how consistently they do their contributions to the household, how well mannered they are with family, how they...

Here or there?

Our kids don’t have a lot of power in their daily lives. Raising their hands to sharpen pencils, use the restroom, get a drink of water, be called on by the teacher….a simple gift we can give our kids are some choices we provide with an outcome we want for...

Smile as you walk away

When your child (a spouse, a neighbor, a friend, a complete stranger) becomes frustrated, you may notice that they try to pull you into a conflict. When this happens, we can be triggered to shift into fight or flight. Love and logic allows us to remove ourselves from...
Welcome to My Blog

Welcome to My Blog

Thanks for visiting my blog! The topics and entries you find here are based on my perspective as a Clinical Social Worker using a Love and Logic lens in my daily interactions as a mom, licensed educator and leader, School Social Worker, Independently Licensed...